re: the anon and the usage of the word queer - there's quite a number of student groups on my campus that deal with the LBTQIA (isn't the acronym even longer than this?) community but use Queer as a catchall term for greater ease: Queer and Asian, Queer Womyn, Queer Straight Alliance, etc. We discussed using the acronym once, but then that devolved into an argument about the ordering and how many letters the acronym should be, etc. The acronym just doesn't seem feasible.
yep yep yep yep this is definitely where i am coming from on this
its offensive to use "queer" as a catch-all term to describe others, reclaim it all you want but its a derogatory slur. it would be like a trans person calling everyone who falls under the trans umbrella a "tranny". use "GSM" or "LGBTQIA" etc
i almost never use the acronym train because not everyone falls into those categories, and it also relies on a privileging of who falls in what order, who has the right to appear on the acronym train, etc.
i also use queer in a more “academic” sense ( i hate using that particular term to describe it but that’s the best way i can describe it ) and i think a lot of people are using that definition as a lens through which they come to define their own gender and sexualities
i understand it has evolved from a slur and that it can still be used as a slur, but i don’t think that referring to the queer community as the “queer community” is problematic coming from a queer-identified person
we shall agree to disagree for now but i’m open to rethinking this - if anyone else has something to say, definitely add on
I wasn't trying to be rude, I'm not very well versed on lesbian sex, you clearly are. You seem to like to inform people, here's a chance. I was genuinely asking and an answer would have sufficed. I didn't mean to offend.
i do like to inform people, but it’s also a matter of who is being informed and why
when i talk about queer sex, my assumed audience is other queers. i have no problem reviewing strap-ons or talking about safe sex because it’s aiding other queers and it’s a discussion i think the community should have, emphasis here on discussion because there are other queers to fill in the gaps or respond based on their experiences and the dialogue is continued across channels of information
i really don’t like the idea that queers are constantly being asked to “educate” the majority on how they have sex, how they live their life, etc as a way to legitimize their existence. it happens constantly and it’s irritating and it’s why i respond the way i do to people who would like me to inform them about how queer people have sex
how queer people have sex: we have sex in a million bajillion ways sometimes they might involve something like a strap on but that doesn’t mean the strap on is just doing penetrative missionary style sex or that it even remotely resembles anything you’d imagine a strap on doing our sex is powerful and incredible and not worth being put into a set of instructions so that the majority “gets it” and that’s all i have to say about that